The One who Fails his Parents will not enter the Garden
Abu Hurayra reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant
him peace, said, "May his nose be dusted (i.e. may he be disgraced), may his nose be dusted, may his nose be dusted." They said, "Messenger of Allah, who?" He said, "The one who lives to see his parents or one of them in old age, and (still) enters the Fire."
Allah prolongs the life of someone who is dutiful towards his
Mu'adh said, "Bliss belongs to someone who is dutiful towards his parents.
Allah Almighty will prolong his life."
حَدَّثَنَا أَصْبَغُ بْنُ الْفَرَجِ قَالَ أَخْبَرَنِي ابْنُ وَهْبٍ عَنْ يَحْيَى بْنِ أَيُّوبَ عَنْ زَبَّانَ بْنِ فَائِدٍ عَنْ سَهْلِ بْنِ مُعَاذٍ عَنْ أَبِيهِ قَالَ قَالَ النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم مَنْ بَرَّ وَالِدَيْهِ طُوبَى لَهُ زَادَ اللَّهُ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ فِي عُمْرِهِ
Hadith 23
Hasan — Al-Albani
One does not ask forgiveness for his father if he is an
Ibn 'Abbas mentioned the words of the Almighty, "When one or both
of them reach old age with you, do not say 'Ugh!' to them out of irritation
and do not be harsh with them but speak to them with gentleness and generosity.
Take them under your wing, out of mercy, with due humility and say: 'Lord,
show mercy to them as they did in looking after me when I was small."
(17:23-24) He said, "This was abrogated in Surat at-Tawba: 'It
is not right for the Prophet (ﷺ) and those who have iman to ask forgiveness for
the mushrikun even if they are close relatives after it has become clear
to them that they are the Companions of the Blazing Fire.' (9:113)"
Sa'id ibn Abi Waqqas said: "Four ayats were revealed about me. The first
was when my mother swore she would neither eat nor drink until I left Muhammad,
may Allah bless him and grant him peace. Allah Almighty revealed, 'But
if they try to make you associate something with Me about which you have
no knowledge, do not obey them. Keep company with them correctly and courteously
in this world' (31:15) The second was when I took a sword that
I admired and said, 'Messenger of Allah, give me this!' Then the ayat
was revealed: 'They will ask you about booty.' (8:1) The third was
when I was ill and the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant
him peace, came to me and I said, 'Messenger of Allah, I want to divide my
property. Can I will away a half?' He said, 'No.' 'A third?' I asked. He
was silent and so after that it was allowed to will away a third. The fourth
was when I had been drinking wine with some of the Ansar. One of them hit
my nose with the jawbone of a camel. I went to the Prophet, may Allah bless
him and grant him peace, and Allah Almighty revealed the prohibition of wine."
Asma' bint Abi Bakr said, "In the time of the Prophet, may Allah bless
him and grant him peace, my mother came to me hoping (I would be dutiful).
I asked the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, 'Do I have
to treat her well?' 'Yes,' he replied."
حَدَّثَنَا الْحُمَيْدِيُّ قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا ابْنُ عُيَيْنَةَ قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا هِشَامُ بْنُ عُرْوَةَ قَالَ أَخْبَرَنِي أَبِي قَالَ أَخْبَرَتْنِي أَسْمَاءُ بِنْتُ أَبِي بَكْرٍ قَالَتْ أَتَتْنِي أُمِّي رَاغِبَةً فِي عَهْدِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَسَأَلْتُ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم أَصِلُهَا قَالَ نَعَمْ قَالَ ابْنُ عُيَيْنَةَ فَأَنْزَلَ اللَّهُ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ فِيهَا لاَ يَنْهَاكُمُ اللَّهُ عَنِ الَّذِينَ لَمْ يُقَاتِلُوكُمْ فِي الدِّينِ
Hadith 26
Sahih — Al-Albani
Dutifulness towards a parent who is an idolater
Ibn 'Umar said, "'Umar saw a silk robe for sale. He said, 'Messenger
of Allah, would you buy this robe and wear it on Jumu'a and when delegations
visit you?' He replied, 'Only a person who has no portion in the Next World
could wear this.' Then the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant
him peace, was given some robes made of the same material. He sent one of
the robes to 'Umar. 'Umar exclaimed, 'How can I wear it when you said what
you said about it?' The Prophet (ﷺ) replied, 'I did not give it to you so that
you could wear it. You can sell it or give it to someone.' 'Umar sent it
to a brother of his in Makka who had not yet become Muslim."
'Abdullah ibn 'Amr said that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant
him peace, said, "Reviling one's parents is one of the great wrong actions."
They asked, "How could he revile them?" He said, "He reviles a man who then
in turn reviles his mother and father."
Abu Bakra reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him
peace, said, "There is no wrong action more likely to bring punishment in
this world in addition to what is stored up in the Next World than oppression
and severing ties of kinship."
حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ اللهِ بْنُ يَزِيدَ قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا عُيَيْنَةُ بْنُ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ عَنْ أَبِيهِ عَنْ أَبِي بَكْرَةَ عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ مَا مِنْ ذَنْبٍ أَجْدَرُ أَنْ يُعَجَّلَ لِصَاحِبِهِ الْعُقُوبَةُ مَعَ مَا يُدَّخَرُ لَهُ مِنَ الْبَغِيِّ وَقَطِيعَةِ الرَّحِمِ
Hadith 30
Da'if — Al-Albani
The punishment for disobeying parents
'Imran ibn Husayn said, "The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him
and grant him peace, said, 'What do you say about fornication, drinking wine
and theft?' 'Allah and His Messenger know best,' we replied. He stated, 'They
are acts of outrage and there is punishment for them, but shall I tell you
which is the greatest of the great wrong actions? Associating with Allah
Almighty and disobeying parents.' He had been reclining, but then he sat
up and said, 'and lying.'"
Abu Hurayra reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant
him peace, said, "Three supplications are answered without a doubt: the
supplication of someone who is oppressed, the supplication of someone on
a journey, and the supplication of parents for their children."
Abu Hurayra reported that he heard the Messenger of Allah, may Allah
bless him and grant him peace, say, "No human child has ever spoken in the
cradle except for 'Isa ibn Maryam, may Allah bless him and grant him peace,
and the companion of Jurayj." Abu Hurayra asked, "Prophet of Allah, who was
the companion of Jurayj?" The Prophet (ﷺ) replied, "Jurayj was a monk who lived
in a hermitage. There was a cowherd who used to come to the foot of his hermitage
and a woman from the village used to come to the cowherd.
Abu Hurayra said, "Neither Jew nor Christian has heard me and then not
loved me. I wanted my mother to become Muslim, but she refused. I told her
about it and she still refused. I went to the Prophet, may Allah bless him
and grant him peace, and said, 'Pray to Allah for me.' He did so and I went
to her. She was inside the door of the house and said, 'Abu Hurayra, I have
become Muslim.' I told the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace,
and I asked, 'Make supplication to Allah for me and my mother.' He said,
'O Allah, make people love Abu Hurayra and his mother.'"
Abu Usayd said, "We were with the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless
him and grant him peace, when a man asked, 'Messenger of Allah, is there
any act of dutifulness which I can do for my parents after their death?'
He replied, 'Yes. There are four things: Supplication for them, asking
forgiveness for them, fulfilling their pledges, and being generous to friends
of theirs. You only have ties of kinship through your parents."
Abu Hurayra said, "The dead person can be raised a degree after his death.
He said, 'My Lord, how is this?' He was told, 'Your child can ask for forgiveness
for you.'"
Ibn Sirin said, "We were with Abu Hurayra one night and he said, 'O Allah,
forgive Abu Hurayra and his mother and whoever asks for forgiveness for both
of them.'" Muhammad said, "We used to ask for forgiveness for them so that
we would be included in Abu Hurayra's supplication."
Abu Hurayra reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him
and grant him peace, said, "When a person dies, all action is cut off for
him with the exception of three things: sadaqa which continues, knowledge
which benefits, or a righteous child who makes supplication for him."
Ibn 'Abbas reported that a man said, "Messenger of Allah, my mother died
without a will. Will it help her if I give sadaqa on her behalf?"
"Yes," he replied.
The Dutifulness of someone who maintains what his father
'Abdullah ibn Dinar reported that Ibn 'Umar passed by a bedouin during
a journey. The bedouin's father had been a friend of 'Umar's. The bedouin
said, "Am I not the son of so-and-so?" He said, "Yes, indeed." Ibn 'Umar
ordered that he be given a donkey which was following him. He also took off
his turban and gave it to him, One of the men with him said, "Wouldn't two
dirhams be enough for him?" He replied, "The Prophet, may Allah bless him
and grant him peace, said, 'Maintain what your father loved. Do not cut it
off so that Allah puts out your light."