'Abbul-Jabbar bin Al-Ward narrated:
"I heard Ibn Abi Mulaikah say: 'When Umm Aban died, I attended with the people. I sat in front of 'Abdullah bin 'Umar and Ibn 'Abbas, and the women wept. Ibn 'Umar said: 'Why don't you tell them not to weep? For I heard the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) say: The deceased is punished due to some of his family's weeping for him."' Ibn 'Abbas said: "Umar used to narrate something like that. I went out with 'Umar and when we got to on uninhabited area, he saw a caravan beneath a tree. He said: 'See whose caravan this is.' I went and I found Suhaib and his family. I came back to him and said: 'O Commander of the Believers! This is Suhaib and his family.' He said: 'Bring Suhaib to me.' When we entered Al-Madinah, 'Umar was attacked and Suhaib sat by him, weeping and saying, 'O my brother, O my brother.' 'Umar said: 'O Suhaib, do not weep, for I heard the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) say: The deceased is punished due to some of the weeping of his family for him. He said: I mentioned that to 'Aishah and she said: 'By Allah you are not narrating this Hadith from two liars who have disbelieved, but sometimes you mishear. And no bearer of burdens shall bear another's burden. And the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: 'Allah increases the punishment of the disbeliever because of his family's weeping for him."'
It was narrated from Muhammad bin 'Amr bin 'Ata that Salamah bin Al-Azraq said:
"I heard Abu Hurairah say: 'Someone from the family of the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) died, and the women gathered, weeping for him. 'Umar stood up and told them not to do that, and threw them out, but the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: Let them be there, O 'Umar, for the eye weeps and the heart grieves, but soon we will join them."
أَخْبَرَنَا عَلِيُّ بْنُ حُجْرٍ قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا إِسْمَاعِيلُ هُوَ ابْنُ جَعْفَرٍ عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ عَمْرِو بْنِ حَلْحَلَةَ عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ عَمْرِو بْنِ عَطَاءٍ أَنَّ سَلَمَةَ بْنَ الأَزْرَقِ قَالَ سَمِعْتُ أَبَا هُرَيْرَةَ قَالَ مَاتَ مَيِّتٌ مِنْ آلِ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَاجْتَمَعَ النِّسَاءُ يَبْكِينَ عَلَيْهِ فَقَامَ عُمَرُ يَنْهَاهُنَّ وَيَطْرُدُهُنَّ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم دَعْهُنَّ يَا عُمَرُ فَإِنَّ الْعَيْنَ دَامِعَةٌ وَالْقَلْبَ مُصَابٌ وَالْعَهْدَ قَرِيبٌ
Hadith 1860
Sahih — Darussalam
The Calls of the Jahiliyyah
It was narrated that 'Abdullah said:
"The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: 'He is not one of us who strikes his cheeks, rends his garment, calls out the calls of the Jahiliyyah."'
It was narrated that Safwan bin Muhriz said:
"Abu Musa fell unconscious and they wept for him. He said: 'I say to you the words of disavowal that the messenger of Allah said: He is not one of us who shaves his head (as a sign of mourning), rends his garments, or raises his voice in Lamentation."'
It was narrated from 'Abdullah that the Prophet (ﷺ) said:
"He is not one of us who strikes his cheeks, rends his garment, and calls the calls of the Jahiliyyah."
أَخْبَرَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ بَشَّارٍ قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا يَحْيَى قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا سُفْيَانُ قَالَ حَدَّثَنِي زُبَيْدٌ عَنْ إِبْرَاهِيمَ عَنْ مَسْرُوقٍ عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ لَيْسَ مِنَّا مَنْ ضَرَبَ الْخُدُودَ وَشَقَّ الْجُيُوبَ وَدَعَا بِدَعْوَى الْجَاهِلِيَّةِ
Hadith 1863
Sahih — Darussalam
Shaving (As a Sign of Mourning)
It was narrated from Abu Sakhrah, that 'Abdur-Rahman bin Yazid and Abu Burdah said:
"When Abu Musa was close to death, his wife started to scream." They said: "He woke up and said: 'Did I not tell you that I am free from what the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) is free?" They said: "He used to narrate that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: 'I am free from the one who shaves his head, rends his garments or raises his voice in lamentation."'
أَخْبَرَنَا أَحْمَدُ بْنُ عُثْمَانَ بْنِ حَكِيمٍ قَالَ أَنْبَأَنَا جَعْفَرُ بْنُ عَوْفٍ قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو عُمَيْسٍ عَنْ أَبِي صَخْرَةَ عَنْ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنِ يَزِيدَ وَأَبِي بُرْدَةَ قَالاَ لَمَّا ثَقُلَ أَبُو مُوسَى أَقْبَلَتِ امْرَأَتُهُ تَصِيحُ قَالاَ فَأَفَاقَ فَقَالَ أَلَمْ أُخْبِرْكِ أَنِّي بَرِيءٌ مِمَّنْ بَرِئَ مِنْهُ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالاَ وَكَانَ يُحَدِّثُهَا أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ أَنَا بَرِيءٌ مِمَّنْ حَلَقَ وَخَرَقَ وَسَلَقَ
Hadith 1864
Sahih — Darussalam
Rending one's Garment
It was narrated from 'Abdullah that the Prophet (ﷺ) said:
"He is not one of us who strikes his cheeks, rends his garment, and calls the calls of the Jahiliyyah."
أَخْبَرَنَا إِسْحَاقُ بْنُ مَنْصُورٍ قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الرَّحْمَنِ قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا سُفْيَانُ عَنْ زُبَيْدٍ عَنْ إِبْرَاهِيمَ عَنْ مَسْرُوقٍ عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ لَيْسَ مِنَّا مَنْ ضَرَبَ الْخُدُودَ وَشَقَّ الْجُيُوبَ وَدَعَا بِدَعْوَى الْجَاهِلِيَّةِ
Hadith 1865
Sahih — Darussalam
Rending one's Garment
It was narrated from Yazid bin Aws, that:
Abu Musa said he fell unconscious and an Umm Walad of his wept. When he woke up, he asked her: "Have you not heard what the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said?" She said: "He said: 'He is not one of us who raises his voice in lamentation, shaves his head, or rends his garments.""
It was narrated from Umm 'Abdullah, the wife of Abu Musa, that Abu Musa said:
"The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: 'He is not one of us who shaves his head, raises his voice in lamentation or rends his garments."'
It was narrated that Al-Qartha' said:
"When Abu Musa was close to death, his wife screamed and he said: 'Do you not know what the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said?" She said: 'Yes, Then she fell silent and it was said to her after that: 'What did the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) say?' She said: 'The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) cursed the one who shaves his head, raises his voice in lamentation or rends his garment."
أَخْبَرَنَا هَنَّادٌ عَنْ أَبِي مُعَاوِيَةَ عَنِ الأَعْمَشِ عَنْ إِبْرَاهِيمَ عَنْ سَهْمِ بْنِ مِنْجَابٍ عَنِ الْقَرْثَعِ قَالَ لَمَّا ثَقُلَ أَبُو مُوسَى صَاحَتِ امْرَأَتُهُ فَقَالَ أَمَا عَلِمْتِ مَا قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَتْ بَلَى ثُمَّ سَكَتَتْ فَقِيلَ لَهَا بَعْدَ ذَلِكَ أَىُّ شَىْءٍ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَتْ إِنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم لَعَنَ مَنْ حَلَقَ أَوْ سَلَقَ أَوْ خَرَقَ
Hadith 1868
Sahih — Darussalam
The Command to seek Reward and be Patient at the time of Calamity
It was narrated that Abu 'Uthman said:
"Usamah bin Zaid told me: 'The daughter of the Prophet (ﷺ) sent word to him telling him: A son of mine is dying, come to us. He sent word to her, conveying his greeting of salam and saying: "To Allah belongs that which He takes and that which He gives, and everything has an appointed time with Allah. Let her be patient and seek reward." She sent word to him adjuring him to go to her. So he got up and went, accompanied by Sa'd bin 'Ubadah, Muadh bin Jabal, Ubayy bin Kab Zaid bin Thabit and some other men. The boy was lifted up to the Messenger of Allah, with the death rattle sounding in him, and his eyes filled with tears. Sa'd said: "O Messenger of Allah, what is this?" he said: "This is compassion which Allah has created in the hearts of His slaves. Allah has mercy on His compassionate slaves."
The Command to seek Reward and be Patient at the time of Calamity
It was narrated that Thabit said:
"I heard Anas say: 'The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: True patience is that which comes at the first blow."'
أَخْبَرَنَا عَمْرُو بْنُ عَلِيٍّ قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ جَعْفَرٍ قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا شُعْبَةُ عَنْ ثَابِتٍ قَالَ سَمِعْتُ أَنَسًا يَقُولُ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم الصَّبْرُ عِنْدَ الصَّدْمَةِ الأُولَى
Hadith 1870
Sahih — Darussalam
The Command to seek Reward and be Patient at the time of Calamity
Abu lyas Mu'awiyah bin 'Qurrah narrated from his father that:
a man came to the Prophet (ﷺ) accompanied by a son of his. He said to him: "Do you love him?" He said: "May Allah love you as I love him." Then he (the son) died and he noticed his absence and asked about him. He said: "Will it not make you happy to know that you will not come to any of the gates of Paradise but you will find him there, trying to open it for you?"
'Amr bin sa'eed bin Abi Husain told us that:
'Amr bin Shu'aib wrote to 'Abdullah bin 'Abdur-Rahman bin Abi Husain to offer condolences for a son of his who had died. In his letter he mentioned that he had heard his father narrate, that his grandfather, 'Abdullah bin 'Amr bin Al-As said: "The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: 'Allah does not approve for His believing slave, if He takes away his loved one from among the people of the Earth, and he bears that with patience and seeks reward, and says that which he is commanded any reward less than Paradise."'
The Reward of one who seeks Reward for (The loss of) Three of his own Children
It was narrated from Anas that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:
"Whoever seeks reward for (the loss of) three of his own children, he will enter Paradise." A woman stood up and said: "Or two?" He said: "Or two." The woman said: "I wish that I had said, 'or one."'
It was narrated that Anas said:
"The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: 'There is no Muslim, three of whose children die before reaching puberty, but Allah will admit him to Paradise by virtue of His mercy towards them."'
أَخْبَرَنَا يُوسُفُ بْنُ حَمَّادٍ قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الْوَارِثِ عَنْ عَبْدِ الْعَزِيزِ عَنْ أَنَسٍ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم مَا مِنْ مُسْلِمٍ يُتَوَفَّى لَهُ ثَلاَثَةٌ مِنَ الْوَلَدِ لَمْ يَبْلُغُوا الْحِنْثَ إِلاَّ أَدْخَلَهُ اللَّهُ الْجَنَّةَ بِفَضْلِ رَحْمَتِهِ إِيَّاهُمْ
Hadith 1874
Sahih — Darussalam
One who Loses Three
It was narrated that Sa'sa'ah bin Mu'awiyah said:
"I met Abu Dharr and said: 'Tell me a Hadith.' He said: the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: There are no two Muslims, three of whose children die before reaching puberty, but Allah will forgive them by virtue of His mercy towards them."'
It was narrated from Abu Hurairah that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:
"No Muslim, three of whose children die, will be touched by the Fire, except in fulfillment of the (Divine) oath."
أَخْبَرَنَا قُتَيْبَةُ بْنُ سَعِيدٍ عَنْ مَالِكٍ عَنِ ابْنِ شِهَابٍ عَنْ سَعِيدٍ عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ لاَ يَمُوتُ لأَحَدٍ مِنَ الْمُسْلِمِينَ ثَلاَثَةٌ مِنَ الْوَلَدِ فَتَمَسَّهُ النَّارُ إِلاَّ تَحِلَّةَ الْقَسَمِ
Hadith 1876
Sahih — Darussalam
One who Loses Three
It was narrated from Abu Hurairah that the Prophet (ﷺ) said:
"There are no two Muslims, three of whose children die before reaching puberty, but Allah will admit them to Paradise by virtue of His mercy toward them. It will be said to them: 'Enter Paradise.' They will say: 'Not until our parents enter.' So it will be said: 'Enter Paradise, you and your parents."'
It was narrated that Abu Hurairah said:
"A woman came to the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) with a son of hers who was ill and said: 'O Messenger of Allah, I fear for him, and I have already lost three.' The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: "You have a great protection against the Hellfire."
أَخْبَرَنَا إِسْحَاقُ قَالَ أَنْبَأَنَا جَرِيرٌ قَالَ حَدَّثَنِي طَلْقُ بْنُ مُعَاوِيَةَ وَحَفْصُ بْنُ غِيَاثٍ قَالَ حَدَّثَنِي جَدِّي طَلْقُ بْنُ مُعَاوِيَةَ عَنْ أَبِي زُرْعَةَ عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ قَالَ جَاءَتِ امْرَأَةٌ إِلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم بِابْنٍ لَهَا يَشْتَكِي فَقَالَتْ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ أَخَافُ عَلَيْهِ وَقَدْ قَدَّمْتُ ثَلاَثَةً فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم لَقَدِ احْتَظَرْتِ بِحِظَارٍ شَدِيدٍ مِنَ النَّارِ