Al-Adab Al-Mufrad
كتاب السَّلامِ
The Greeting to Children
'Anbas said, "I saw Ibn 'Umar greet children in the schools."
حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ عُبَيْدٍ قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا عِيسَى بْنُ يُونُسَ عَنْ عَنْبَسَةَ قَالَ رَأَيْتُ ابْنَ عُمَرَ يُسَلِّمُ عَلَى الصِّبْيَانِ فِي الْكُتَّابِ
Women greeting men
Umm Hani', the daughter of Abu Talib, said, "I went to the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, while he was performing a major ablution. I greeted him and he asked, 'Who is this?' 'Umm Hani',' I replied. He said, 'Welcome.'"
حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ اللهِ بْنُ يُوسُفَ قَالَ أَخْبَرَنَا مَالِكٌ عَنْ أَبِي النَّضْرِ أَنَّ أَبَا مُرَّةَ مَوْلَى أُمِّ هَانِئِ ابْنَةِ أَبِي طَالِبٍ أَخْبَرَهُ أَنَّهُ سَمِعَ أُمَّ هَانِئٍ تَقُولُ ذَهَبْتُ إِلَى النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم وَهُوَ يَغْتَسِلُ فَسَلَّمْتُ عَلَيْهِ فَقَالَ مَنْ هَذِهِ قُلْتُ أُمُّ هَانِئٍ قَالَ مَرْحَبًا
Women greeting men
Al-Hasan said, "Be women who greet men."
حَدَّثَنَا مُوسَى قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا مُبَارَكٌ قَالَ سَمِعْتُ الْحَسَنَ يَقُولُ كُنَّ النِّسَاءُ يُسَلِّمْنَ عَلَى الرِّجَالِ
Greeting women
Asma' was heard to say that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, passed by a group of women sitting down in the mosque. He said to the salam with his hand and said, "Beware of the ingratitude of those with blessings. Beware of the ingratitude of those with blessings." One of them said, "We seek refuge with Prophet, Prophet of Allah, from ingratitude for the blessings of Allah." He said, "Yes. One of you women might have been without a husband for a long time (and then Allah provides her with one) and she becomes angry and says, 'By Allah, I have never seen a hour of good from you. That is ingratitude for the blessings of Allah. That is the ingratitude of those with blessings.'"
حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ يُوسُفَ قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الْحَمِيدِ بْنُ بَهْرَامَ عَنْ شَهْرٍ قَالَ سَمِعْتُ أَسْمَاءَ أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم مَرَّ فِي الْمَسْجِدِ وَعُصْبَةٌ مِنَ النِّسَاءِ قُعُودٌ قَالَ بِيَدِهِ إِلَيْهِنَّ بِالسَّلاَمِ فَقَالَ إِيَّاكُنَّ وَكُفْرَانَ الْمُنْعِمِينَ إِيَّاكُنَّ وَكُفْرَانَ الْمُنْعِمِينَ قَالَتْ إِحْدَاهُنَّ نَعُوذُ بِاللَّهِ يَا نَبِيَّ اللهِ مِنْ كُفْرَانِ نِعَمِ اللهِ قَالَ بَلَى إِنَّ إِحْدَاكُنَّ تَطُولُ أَيْمَتُهَا ثُمَّ تَغْضَبُ الْغَضْبَةَ فَتَقُولُ وَاللَّهِ مَا رَأَيْتُ مِنْهُ سَاعَةً خَيْرًا قَطُّ فَذَلِكَ كُفْرَانُ نِعَمِ اللهِ وَذَلِكَ كُفْرَانُ نِعَمِ الْمُنْعِمِينَ
Greeting women
Asma', the daughter of Yazid al-Ansari, said, "The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, passed by me while I was with some young slavegirls belonging to me. He greeted us and said, 'Beware of the ingratitude of those with blessings.' I was the boldest of them in coming forward to question him and I said, 'Messenger of Allah, what is the ingratitude of those with blessings?' He replied, 'Perhaps one of them with remain unmarried for a long time with her parents and then Allah provides her with a husband and provides her with children from him and then she gets angry and is ungrateful and says, "I have never seen any good at all from you."'"
حَدَّثَنَا مَخْلَدٌ قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا مُبَشِّرُ بْنُ إِسْمَاعِيلَ عَنِ ابْنِ أَبِي غَنِيَّةَ عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ مُهَاجِرٍ عَنْ أَبِيهِ عَنْ أَسْمَاءَ ابْنَةِ يَزِيدَ الأَنْصَارِيَّةِ مَرَّ بِيَ النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم وَأَنَا فِي جِوَارِ أَتْرَابٍ لِي فَسَلَّمَ عَلَيْنَا وَقَالَ إِيَّاكُنَّ وَكُفْرَ الْمُنْعِمِينَ وَكُنْتُ مِنْ أَجْرَئِهِنَّ عَلَى مَسْأَلَتِهِ فَقُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ وَمَا كُفْرُ الْمُنْعِمِينَ قَالَ لَعَلَّ إِحْدَاكُنَّ تَطُولُ أَيْمَتُهَا مِنْ أَبَوَيْهَا ثُمَّ يَرْزُقُهَا اللَّهُ زَوْجًا وَيَرْزُقُهَا مِنْهُ وَلَدًا فَتَغْضَبُ الْغَضْبَةَ فَتَكْفُرُ فَتَقُولُ مَا رَأَيْتُ مِنْكَ خَيْرًا قَطُّ
Someone who dislikes to greet a particular person
Tariq said, "We were sitting with 'Abdullah when his doorkeeper came and said, 'The iqama for the prayer has been given.' He got up and we got up as well and went to the mosque. He saw the people doing ruku' at the front of the mosque. He said the takbir, bowed, and we went and did the same thing that he had done. Then a man rushed past and said, 'Peace be upon you, Abu 'Abdu'r-Rahman.' He said, 'Allah has spoken the truth and His Messenger conveyed the Message.' When we finished the prayer, he returned and went back to is people. We remained sitting in our places, waiting for him until he came out. We said to each other, 'Which of us will ask him?' Tariq said, 'I will ask him,' and he did so. 'Abdullah said, 'From the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, who said, "Before the Final Hour people will single out one individual for the greeting, commerce will increase until a woman helps her husband in business, people will sever their links with their relatives, knowledge will spread, false testimony will appear and true testimony will be concealed."'"
حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو نُعَيْمٍ عَنْ بَشِيرِ بْنِ سَلْمَانَ عَنْ سَيَّارٍ أَبِي الْحَكَمِ عَنْ طَارِقٍ قَالَ كُنَّا عِنْدَ عَبْدِ اللهِ جُلُوسًا فَجَاءَ آذِنُهُ فَقَالَ قَدْ قَامَتِ الصَّلاَةُ فَقَامَ وَقُمْنَا مَعَهُ فَدَخَلْنَا الْمَسْجِدَ فَرَأَى النَّاسَ رُكُوعًا فِي مُقَدَّمِ الْمَسْجِدِ فَكَبَّرَ وَرَكَعَ وَمَشَيْنَا وَفَعَلْنَا مِثْلَ مَا فَعَلَ فَمَرَّ رَجُلٌ مُسْرِعٌ فَقَالَ عَلَيْكُمُ السَّلاَمُ يَا أَبَا عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ فَقَالَ صَدَقَ اللَّهُ وَبَلَّغَ رَسُولُهُ فَلَمَّا صَلَّيْنَا رَجَعَ فَوَلَجَ عَلَى أَهْلِهِ وَجَلَسْنَا فِي مَكَانِنَا نَنْتَظِرُهُ حَتَّى يَخْرُجَ فَقَالَ بَعْضُنَا لِبَعْضٍ أَيُّكُمْ يَسْأَلُهُ قَالَ طَارِقٌ أَنَا أَسْأَلُهُ فَسَأَلَهُ فَقَالَ عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ بَيْنَ يَدَيِ السَّاعَةِ تَسْلِيمُ الْخَاصَّةِ وَفُشُوُّ التِّجَارَةِ حَتَّى تُعِينَ الْمَرْأَةُ زَوْجَهَا عَلَى التِّجَارَةِ وَقَطْعُ الأَرْحَامِ وَفُشُوُّ الْقَلَمِ وَظُهُورُ الشَّهَادَةِ بِالزُّورِ وَكِتْمَانُ شَهَادَةِ الْحَقِّ
Someone who dislikes to greet a particular person
'Abdullah ibn 'Amr reported that a man asked the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, "Which is the best of Islam?" He replied, "Feeding people and giving the greeting to those you know and those you do not know."
حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ اللهِ بْنُ صَالِحٍ قَالَ حَدَّثَنِي اللَّيْثُ قَالَ حَدَّثَنِي يَزِيدُ بْنُ أَبِي حَبِيبٍ عَنْ أَبِي الْخَيْرِ عَنْ عَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ عَمْرٍو أَنَّ رَجُلاً سَأَلَ رَسُولَ اللهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم أَيُّ الإِسْلاَمِ خَيْرٌ قَالَ تُطْعِمُ الطَّعَامَ وَتَقْرَأُ السَّلاَمَ عَلَى مَنْ عَرَفْتَ وَمَنْ لَمْ تَعْرِفْ